What do Men look for in Women?
16. Mar, 2010 
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What do Men look for in Women?
It’s a question that has baffled women for ages…myself included. One moment girls have cooties and you are running away from them, then the next, you’re chasing the girl of your dreams.
Most women believe men only look for looks…but ask any guy and you may very well be surprised to learn that perfect bodies and skinny models are far from being the “perfect woman.”
So now you’re thinking… so if that’s not on the top of the list, what is? Guys are attracted to many different traits and of course not attracted to others. Fortunately, I’m here to highlight some of the top qualities that I believe men look for in women.
Personality
- Surprisingly, a woman’s personality always makes the top of the charts. It is what is most beautiful. It’s also what distinguishes one female from another. That’s why I believe there’s someone for everyone.
Physical Features
- Alright, alright, I know I said looks aren’t important, but I will admit, guys have a weakness for a female’s eyes and a female’s smile. Now I repeat, although physical features may entice a man to meet you, remember this key fact: Men would rather get to know a woman and discover that she is beautiful naturally instead of just judging her from the way she looks and finding out that she’s really an ugly person on the inside. And remember, men want someone beautiful but beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
Happy
- No, this isn’t where I’m going to make you sing “If you’re happy and you know it” But if you are happy and you know it…show it. Why? Well because, men love happy women. Women tend to be the more emotional party of the two in a relationship and being happy is a sign of a good relationship.
Confidence
- This kind of ties into being happy but surprisingly, men dig a woman with confidence and who is comfortable with themselves. That being the case, do remember, that confidence are ego are two different things – although you may not know the difference – men do.
Honesty
- This one is kind of a no-brainer, but honesty and trust are two definite qualities that men seek for in a woman. With our society the way it is, it’s no surprise than want to make sure their woman is going to be faithful.
Intelligence
- We’re not expecting women to be Albert Einstein but we love women that can hold a conversation and be intriguing. A woman that can’t spell her name and uses the word “like” five times in a sentence is definitely not our ideal woman.
Companionship:
- We’re looking for a woman that shares similar interests and that will be our best friend until the day we die. We want someone there to play tennis against us, listen to our stories about our past, and of course, help us study for that upcoming test.
Independence:
- Sure, we love to be wanted and needed and to hold her tight when going through a dark alleyway, but at the same time, we love women that are able to take care of themselves without feeling that she has to compromise herself in a relationship. Too much clingy makes us tear away.
A Sense of Humour.
- No, you do not have to tell us a knock-knock joke every two-seconds, but making us laugh is always a bonus. It shows a free-spirited side. As a bonus, if you laugh at our jokes, it makes us feel really great, so that’s one way of getting bonus points. Plus, a woman with a nice laugh is amazing, so hopefully laughter is as contagious as they say it is.
Basically, we are looking for our future with the hope of being with our partner ‘til the day we die. That being the case, I now ask you women, what do YOU look for in a guy? Is your list similar to ours?
And as a side note, perhaps you can explain your love for chocolate…. Cause I definitely haven’t figured that one out yet.
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Hey,
Really enjoyed reading this. As a fellow male, I believe that women may have a false sense of what we truly are looking for. Of course there will be those “big shots” who only want T&A, but I believe for the majority of men, the ones with normal human emotions, we are looking for something much deeper.
For me, the biggest one is independence. I need a good mix of “feeling wanted” and not being smothered by her, which is a tough balance.
Any who, good post.
The real question is, where do you find these guys?? Cause I seem to only find the ones that want T&A..
Oh, and as for the chocolate….studies have proven it releases the same chemicals into the brain that having an orgasm does.
that must be some damn good chocolate
The truth of the matter is that those men who are most interested in sex and beautiful women are the men that are most visible: parties, sports and more.
The men who are looking for the listed items (the men who have posted here, myself included) are likely to be shy creatures that lack the confidence to counter-act the assumptions about the desire of men.
I would like to see a woman respond in kind with what they are looking for men. There are stereotypes in this field that need to be broken down.
Well done! It was a delightful read and I completely agree with what you’ve said.
haha it releases the same chemicals, not give you a full blown orgasm! It just gives you the same satisfied feeling
Hey guys and gals thank you for all the comments and compliments. I couldn’t agree more that most men want something much deeper. And also Melissa be careful with the chocolate, we wouldn’t want you to overdose. Anyway thanks again!
Nick,
I know you have been waiting patiently for my comment… but do not worry, your time has arrived!
In fact, my comment was so long, I decided to write a blog about it.
Go check it out: Here is what traits women like to see in their men (just like you asked!).
http://campusintel.com/2010/03/18/what-do-women-look-for-in-men/
Great Blog!
Another huge issue is proximity. People that live/work near us are actually perceived as more attractive. The more times you see a person and interact with them, the more attractive in general you find them.
And while studies have shown that attractiveness is one of the strongest predictors of whether someone will go on a first date with you, similar interests are a much stronger predictor for whether you will enjoy an 8th or 9th date.